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Letting Go

In the beginning there was just you and me But I stand in a world I want you to see. Share on X
In the beginning there was just you and me

But I stand in a world I want you to see.

I’ll take you to places and show you other things,

To hopefully let go, so you use your own wings.

You can come back and tell me what you’ve done.

My only question will be, did you have fun?

Mama Grace


As I watch her grow, each stage seems to be about letting go. Letting go of her being in our room, holding me for stability, holding her cup and taking time out to let her have her independence.

It reminds me of working with young people with behavioural and special needs, especially those who needed to be restrained; the 1:1 support and systems we put in place all worked but the ultimate goal is for them to have complete independence and feel their power to control their lives.

I hope that I keep letting go, so that she navigates her way through life feeling fully confident and having fun. This is a poem I wrote for her to find her own way.

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  1. I find this strangely very poignant. So many times when you have to let go and so very scary to do when you love them so very much. Does not seem to get any easier either as they move into adulthood.

  2. This is beautiful! It;s a lovely way to look at it as sometimes these little milestones pass by without us realising. This made me a bit emotional too! x #postsfromtheheart

  3. I hear you! River has Down syndrome and I find letting go so hard, yet I’m desperately trying to prepare him for at least a semi independent life. Beautiful poem x x x #PostsFromTheHeart

    • And I hear you. I used to teach SEN and nobody knows what an individual is capable of until they are given the opportunity but when someone has SEN needs there’s a balancing act between giving the right support and letting the young person be independent, perhaps because even on a small thing the fall can be greater. I acknowledge you have a journey where I would feel more anxious. I think between you and River you’ll workout when it’s time and something has become too easy.

  4. barriebismark barriebismark

    Love this. Beautiful. Letting go. Seems like that is what we do with every stage.

  5. What a beautiful poem, I found it really touching. It’s tough to let go but at the same time, for my daughter, I can also see it as a positive because I can see her thrive on more independence (although we still co-sleep so at least I haven’t had to let that go yet). #sharingthebloglove

    • Haha. Baby steps. Some things are so nice, I don’t co sleep but I know what you mean. I hold on longer than she does. That’s why I have to keep reminding myself.

  6. randommusings29 randommusings29

    I love this – really beautiful and perfectly captures the milestone moments where you realise your baby is growing up
    Thanks for linking up to #AnythingGoes 🙂

  7. This is true, I just instead of mourning am grateful my child is alive and thriving, sounds a bit OTT but stops me getting so sad but celebrate the joy of live I suppose X #brilliantblogposts

    • Yes! Not OTT at all. Celebrate the joy and potential. That’s what the last couplet is about for me. Also I want her to have ‘wings’. As much joy as she can have.

  8. Aww… beautiful poem. Letting go is so hard. I saw a special need kid just didn’t want to school today because he thought his mother has forgotten his school bag. Little did he know that because it is the last day of school the school kept his school bag so that it would be ready for him for next year. My son said… he sometimes doesn’t understands but he is a good boy. Coming from him makes my heart melts.

    Thank you so much for linking up with us on #FabFridayPost xx

  9. I love this….it’s so true…we have to put our egos aside and keep on letting them go…because it’s about their place in the world, not ours. Thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub and have a lovely summer xoxo

  10. Beautiful. Very apt today, as my eldest came out of school sobbing his heart out because he didn’t want to let go of his teacher ready for a new one in September. Thanks for linking up to #FridayFrolics

  11. What a beautiful poem. As a special needs teacher I also love your analogy. You are right essentially both roles are very similar. #PostsFromTheHeart

  12. Beautifully written and so spot on. Letting them go and watching nervously as they test things out is so difficult, and I can’t imagine it gets any easier as they get older and the things they are doing become bigger and bigger. But seeing them accomplish something really is the most amazing feeling ever. Thanks for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

  13. I get this, I really do. I have to ‘let go’ in a few weeks time when school starts! It’s going to be tough! Thanks so much for linking up to #TriumphantTales – hope to see you again on Tuesday!

  14. diynige diynige

    Letting is tough truly beautiful post Thanks for linking to the #THAT FRIDAY LINKY come back next week please

  15. Musings of a tired mummy...zzz... Musings of a tired mummy...zzz...

    Letting go is so important for development and a natural progression but that doesn’t make it any easier for parent or child! #familyfunlinky

  16. This is spot on. My littlest baby is off to school in September and I’m having to give him wings and let him go. I’m struggling! Thanks for linking up with the #bigpinklink this week.

    • I’d be an internal mess, while taking photos and outwardly giving all the encouragement and smiles. I think there’s a special day Spa I’d have to book that day to centre myself and take in all that’s happened and what’s changed.

  17. twotinyhands twotinyhands

    This just makes me want to cuddle mine closer!! He’s only 2 and I let him wander his own path a lot but never too far out of sight. I’m sure when I hit school age this will hit me harder!! Beautiful poem as ever, ‪Thank you for linking up to the #familyfunlinky‬

  18. Beautiful! Letting go is definitely one of the hardest parts of parenthood that I’ve found. When my daughter started school last year I found it really hard to hand over to someone else. I know this is only going to get older as they get older. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

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